Why do we find it hard to say no?

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We have all been there . Someone has asked us to do something that we really want to say no to, but we find ourselves saying yes and doing it anyway. So why do we find it so hard to say no?


Why we find it hard to say no?

To learn to say  no, we first have to understand why we resist it. Below are some common reasons that pope find it hard to say no to:

  1. I don’t want to be rude

Saying no to older or more senior people or within specific cultures can be a sensitive issue. No-one wants to appear rude by saying no, and often it is this that stop people from saying that they can’t do something.

  1.  I don’t want to let people down and I do genuinely want to help

If you are kind-hearted you will struggle to turn people away and are willing to help where possible, even if it eats in to your time or causes you what we call ‘yes-stress’.

  1. I don’t want to cause any conflict

Perhaps you say yes, as you want to avoid confrontation or conflict and to quite simply have an easier life.

  1. I want to conform

We have all found ourselves in this situation at some point in life. You don’t want to alienate yourself from the group because you are not in agreement, so you agree to the requests of other.

  1. I worried I might miss out

Another reason people worry about saying no is that you might turn your back on opportunity.


In our experience these are all false beliefs. It is more about how you say no, than the fact your are saying it which affects the outcome. Saying no at the end of the day is your prerogative.

For more information on how to say no click here


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